In raising the status of wife to one of presumed equality, lesbian marriages have the potential to improve the status of women in straight union as well. Freed from being a term inextricably linked to “husband,” “wife” can take on new meanings. Once we accept the possibility of “wife an wife,” the whole system of opposite-and-unequal terms gets thrown out of whack. Instead of falling into preordained roles of husband as king of his castle and wife as “trouble and strife,” individuals can explore innovative ways to express relatedness.
- Audrey Bilger, “Wife Support,” Bitch Magazine, Winter 2009
If this is what gay marriage does for my marriage than I want it even more. On the flip side, when conservative groups claim that gay marriage will destroy marriage as we know it, is this what they mean? Is this what they are afraid of?