tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7942601.post728368367988350295..comments2023-10-14T08:32:48.543-05:00Comments on Wild Rumpus: Baby BrigadePrincessMaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09197008991622181061noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7942601.post-25068205790967476002011-03-31T16:01:00.772-05:002011-03-31T16:01:00.772-05:00Hey Rachel, I totally get where you're coming ...Hey Rachel, I totally get where you're coming from. That was exactly my experience when I was single, which is where I think I got in this pickle to begin with.<br /><br />I don't know that I was right to do this, but when it seemed like my friends didn't have the time or the energy, I got very proactive about making it easy for them to hang out with me. This helped me determine which ones actually weren't interested and which ones were just adjusting to a new stage of life.<br /><br />Once I took on the lion's share of the burden to maintain our friendships, this dynamic became normal and I wrote this post because I don't what will happen now that I will need them to split the work at a different ratio.<br /><br />Was it worth all that effort even if now our time together diminishes in frequency? I think so. I think that I got paid back for my efforts then because . . . well . . . I got to spend time with my friends and we had amazing experiences that we wouldn't have had if I had made the decision to move on and hope for the best.<br /><br />And, like you said at the end there, I am coming around to the idea that my friends will understand and, in fact, some of that energy that I invested in making it easy for them to hang out with me will get paid back now that I need the favor returned.<br /><br />Who knows, though? I don't have any solutions, either. :-) Only hope and an ability to ponder, which - amazingly - seems to help with the hope bit.<br /><br />It's great to hear from you!PrincessMaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09197008991622181061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7942601.post-71062800967857072772011-03-31T06:51:18.406-05:002011-03-31T06:51:18.406-05:00From another side of it, I've thought a few ti...From another side of it, I've thought a few times that people who have babies, get married etc. don't have the time (or energy to have interest) in pursuing friendship with me anymore. So, I celebrate their joys and often mourn the loss of what was, though that should get much less energy than the celebration. And then try to move on and hope for the best. Maybe it will come back around in time, I guess. <br /><br /><br />No solution here. But I guess I believe your friends will understand.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15449441195053616361noreply@blogger.com